Listen up, my little deviants. About a year ago, I was as clueless as you might be now about incorporating humiliation and degradation into my play. Sure, I’ve been a domme to my husband since day one—I’m a control freak, in and out of the bedroom. But humiliation? Not really my thing, especially since I’m a bit of a germ freak. But, for my husband’s pleasure, I was willing to give it a shot. So, where did I start?
The Beginning: Asking the Right Questions
The Inspiration: Porn and Power Dynamics
I spent hours thinking about this. One thought kept coming back: how women are treated in the porn industry. often treated like garbage, doing degrading things for men’s pleasure. It’s consensual, sure, but it got me thinking. I decided to compile a list, breaking it down into categories: Light, Moderate, Heavy, and Extreme Ideas.
The Transformation: From Reluctant to Ravenous
I started off doing this to please my husband, but then something shifted. I started to enjoy it. Now? I fucking love it. I turned my husband into the women from all those porn videos, and I love every second of it.
Light Ideas
- Spit Play
- What I Did: I spit on the floor and made him lick it up. I spit in his mouth or on his face and rubbed it in.
- His Reaction: He loved it, but it bugged me. He did it so easily; it couldn’t be that degrading, right?
- Dog Walking
- What I Did: I walked him around like a dog on a leash and used him as furniture.
- His Reaction: Again, he loved it, but it felt too easy.
- Cross-Dressing
- What I Did: I dressed him up as a woman, complete with heels and makeup.
- His Reaction: He enjoyed it, but I wanted more.
- Feeding Time
- What I Did: I drank something and then ‘fed’ it to his mouth.
- His Reaction: He loved it, but I needed to up the ante.
Medium Ideas
- Eating from the Floor
- What I Did: I made him eat from a plate on the floor.
- His Reaction: He did it without hesitation.
- Shoe Licking
- What I Did: I made him lick the bottom of my shoes, including gym shoes and heels.
- His Reaction: He enjoyed it, but I wanted more resistance.
- Name-Calling During Pegging
- What I Did: I called him a good cocksucker while he sucked on my strap-on.
- His Reaction: He loved it, but still no hesitation.
- Hair Grabbing
- What I Did: I grabbed a fistful of his hair and controlled his mouth, sliding him up and down the dildo.
- His Reaction: He enjoyed it, but I needed more.
- Chewing Food
- What I Did: I fed him food I had chewed first.
- His Reaction: He loved it, but still no hesitation.
- Treating Him Like a Dog
- What I Did: I stopped referring to him as a human and treated him like a dog.
- His Reaction: He enjoyed it, but I wanted more.
- Ass Licking
- What I Did: I made him lick my ass for the first time.
- His Reaction: He loved it, but I needed more resistance.
- Cum Licking
- What I Did: When he came, I dipped my finger in it and made him lick it.
- His Reaction: He enjoyed it, but still no hesitation.
The Breakthrough: Finding the Limit
I was getting frustrated. I wanted him to hesitate, to say no, to use his safeword. I had one last idea up my sleeve. I dragged him to the bathroom by his leash and said, “Be a good little bitch and lick this clean.” He hesitated for the first time. I said, “What are you waiting for? I’m not asking a second time, dog.” He licked me clean.
This was exhilarating. I had finally pushed him to hesitation. I started to crave this feeling. I wanted to see him squirm more and more.
Heavy Ideas
- Cleaning Up His Mess
- What I Did: I pegged him from behind and made him lick up his semen from the floor.
- His Reaction: He hesitated, but he did it. I was relishing it.
- My Orgasm, His Cleanup
- What I Did: I squirted onto the floor and made him lick it up.
- His Reaction: He hesitated but obliged.
Extreme Ideas
- The Ultimate Degradation
- What I Did: I handcuffed his arms behind his back, dragged him into the shower, and told him to eat me. Then, I peed while he licked me.
- His Reaction: He hesitated but did it. I was intoxicated.
The Aftermath: A Newfound Kink
What started as a challenge to push him to truly feel degraded and humiliated has led to newfound kinks and amazing sex. He has embraced every single bit of it. I know all of his hard limits and never push into them. We always stop and check in when he uses his safeword.
The Lesson: Embrace the Grossness
Be careful what you wish for, little pornstar. Degrading and humiliation can be exceptionally varied and personal. If this resonates with you, I’d love to hear your perspectives. Maybe I’ll elaborate more on how things are now compared to how they started.
So, there you have it, my darlings. A journey from vanilla to vixen, from reluctant to ravenous. Now go out there and explore your kinks—safely, of course.